What would I love to make room for simply because I enjoy it?

"I plan the fun things, and I still can't seem to relax into them."

Last week was about remembering to ask for what you want. Then asking for something bigger.

If you're going to ask for something, you have to make room for it.

This weekend I needed to see my daughters, shop for bridesmaid dresses, see my friend for coffee, and have a date night with Zach.

And I wanted all of those things!

Real enjoyment comes when what we want is also what we need.

Two days this past week I ignored getting to sleep on time, and that affected both days. I could feel it in my body, my attention and my attitude.

We all want to enjoy life and have fun. And sometimes it's hard to just enjoy it.

There's a tension running underneath when the deeper needs aren't being addressed.

It can be a feeling you've been suppressing. Sometimes it's a belief that keeps you going around the same loop (and can keep you up at night).

And when we need to do something 'boring,' or turn our focus away from easy to something hard? Or from something familiar to something unknown? Those are all things we could 'want,' too.

So how do we get ourselves to want, and even enjoy, hard, uncomfortable, boring, unknown?

Results.

Someone's face lit up. Something moved in your life, or in someone else's. Something finally broke through, that shell cracked, and there's flow again in a direction that had been stagnant.

And then it becomes so clear.

A couple of nights later, I went to bed early and slept for ten whole hours. The next day, I felt incredible.

Addressing the real need will change your whole day, and potentially your week or your life.

That need to address it becomes the want.

That's when you experience the type of enjoyment you really wanted from the start.

And putting it on your calendar becomes a magical act of telling the future the way you wish it to be.

Try this: what if I loved it?

Think of one thing you know you need to do, and you don't love doing it.

Let yourself feel that for a moment. The uncomfortable feeling, wherever it is in your body.

Now ask yourself: what if I really wanted to do it? What if I loved it?

Breathe with the question. See if there's any relief, a yes, some space.

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Sending love,
Wendy